Yearly Archives: 2017
“You’ve been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked.
Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”
As the New Year unfolds and picks up speed, I’m wondering how you are doing on the goals you’ve set up for yourself this year?
Oftentimes, this can be the point at which people’s enthusiasm and motivation starts to wane.
Conceivably, you started your new year off with a list of resolutions and goals and were intent to make them happen this year.
Perhaps you’d even gone a step further.
In place of making a list of resolutions, you decided to no longer be subject to that voice of “should” but instead allowed your voice of creation to prevail. You created and designed your new year from an advantage point of vision and clarity.
And, it felt really good and empowering to do this, didn’t it?
You knew this would be a fantastic year. You felt really focused and engaged.
And then something changed.
You’ve noticed your focus is dwindling. You’ve noticed how you have started doing the laundry, washing the dishes, checking Facebook and all sorts of other things, instead of being focused and taking action steps toward your … Read the rest
“Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
Never before, as a society, have we been so inundated with so much imagery, information and messaging about what it is to be and look successful. As a result, society is at its peak with pressure to achieve high levels of success. We fall into believing that our power and worth in life come through what we produce and the image that our lives project.
We all have problems, and sometimes ones that completely consume us. We spend sleepless nights worrying, and our daylight hours trying to come up with a solution. And therein lies the real problem.
As a consequence, we are motivated to find a way improve what we see as lacking in ourselves, what is missing from our lives and what we can do to fix it. Our fears and problems become the priority rather than aligning with our natural creative ability and passions. We see the power as being outside of ourselves.
Having a life coach to support us is a common practice these days. An entire industry has taken shape … Read the rest
“Do or do not. There is no try”
The blog was stuck in my head, refusing to come out.
I’d been struggling with writing it for weeks. Despite a clear vision of what I thought I wanted to say, the words were just plain stuck. The more effort I applied the more mired in concrete they felt.
It appeared the story here wasn’t really about my selected blog topic. The larger issue seemed to be my objection to writing it.
And so, I decided to follow the thread of the resistance I was experiencing instead.
The Law of Reversed Effort
The official label for what I’m experiencing is “The Law of Reversed Effort” which states that the harder we “try” the lower the likelihood of success will be.
“Trying” is a ‘neither here nor there” process that indicates lack of commitment to our goal and provides an excuse for throwing in the towel.
Here’s how this can play out: on a conscious level, I’ve got a blog to write and I’ve selected a topic that is relevant to our readers. Wanting nothing more than to get the job done, my conscious mind jumps in, ready to … Read the rest
“Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.”
Words are extremely powerful and creative forces in our lives.
Although we may not think about it when using them all day every day, they really do embody energy, assign meaning, conjure up images and ignite our imagination. When we choose in awareness and intention for something more, words can powerfully excite our senses, influence our outcomes, inspire our souls and transform our lives.
So, imagine the power of selecting a Word of the Year to represent your over-arching theme for the year!
I had my own hallelujah moment many years ago, when a mentor of mine introduced me to the Word of the Year ritual.
Having never been a fan of New Year’s Resolutions that had me looking through a punitive lens of “shoulds” and then trying to create something positive and sustainable, this has since become the perfect approach to launching my New Year, every year.
Sometimes I choose my Word of the Year and sometimes it magically chooses me, and others who embrace this ritual.
It can come as a soulful whisper, in a lively conversation, on an unexpected sign, on a fob at … Read the rest
“When you’re connected to the power of intention, everywhere you go,
and everyone you meet, is affected by you and the energy you radiate.”
~ Dr. Wayne Dyer
Recently I had the opportunity to witness the results of powerful intention unfolding during a retreat I hosted in Puerto Rico. Participants were asked to spend some time defining their intention for being part of this retreat.
The initial intentions were somewhat vague with responses ranging from “It sounded like a fun idea to come to the retreat”, and “I hope I can grow and change or get over a block in my life”.
Through further discussion, these were sharpened and clarified. As the week unfolded, the deliberateness of the intentions manifested and the magic began. It was like watching a movie where every event, circumstance, and interaction seemed to conspire to bring to focus the lessons and growth opportunities relating to each person’s stated intention.
This experience was a clear reminder that our lives unfold based upon our intentions, whether we set them deliberately or allow our sub-conscious mind to make the decision on our behalf.
When you deliberately set powerful and clear intentions, the universe will respond to your request.… Read the rest
“The only thing that fights darkness is the light.”
We can say for certain that 2016 exposed our global vision to the dark side of humanity.
Stories of political fiascoes topped headline news worldwide. Terrorists threatened global safety, killing innocent victims in the most unexpected places. Civil wars slaughtered millions. And, in the U.S., our ethnic inequities boiled to the surface as hatred exposed itself in neighborhoods and cities and even the Presidential election.
The media was alert to keeping us informed, spinning events to garner larger market shares.
By the end of 2016, a dark cloud shrouded attempts at holiday celebrations. Mental fatigue and anxiety were rampant and banning political conversations over holiday dinners became commonplace.
It’s difficult to feel hopeful in the face of uncertainties that appear monumental. And it’s easy to forget that those who’ve gone before us suffered similar challenges, tragedies and fears.
Just imagine how much happened in the world of our ancestors that they never even knew about. News traveled person to person taking days, if not longer, to be shared. It’s been calculated that information now moves 33,480,000 times faster than it did 200 years ago.* It’s no wonder we feel … Read the rest
The weight of it all was wearing me down. It was everywhere. But where I felt it most was inside my head.
In my pantry. In the garage. In the trunk of my car. On top of my desk. In the fridge and the cupboards and closets. Not to mention the worst offender: the in-box(s) on all my devices. Ugh.
Clutter makes me anxious. And anxiety was building as the calendar pointed to the end of 2016.
Many would call our house pretty lean. We’ve moved a bunch, the last time being a year ago, when we moved back in after having to relocate while our house was remodeled from the flood. We’ve already purged a lot.
But that was a year ago, which is a long time when we’re talking about our “stuff.”
I swear, when we leave our “stuff” unattended it procreates – especially the post-it notes! I’m guessing you’ve got your share of it too.
I recently read something in Pema Chodrön’s book Taking the Leap. She wrote about being tasked with dispersing her Mother’s possessions after her passing. She noted how many things her Mother carried with her from home to home; things packed … Read the rest