Author Archives: Rita Graving
“Do or do not. There is no try”
The blog was stuck in my head, refusing to come out.
I’d been struggling with writing it for weeks. Despite a clear vision of what I thought I wanted to say, the words were just plain stuck. The more effort I applied the more mired in concrete they felt.
It appeared the story here wasn’t really about my selected blog topic. The larger issue seemed to be my objection to writing it.
And so, I decided to follow the thread of the resistance I was experiencing instead.
The Law of Reversed Effort
The official label for what I’m experiencing is “The Law of Reversed Effort” which states that the harder we “try” the lower the likelihood of success will be.
“Trying” is a ‘neither here nor there” process that indicates lack of commitment to our goal and provides an excuse for throwing in the towel.
Here’s how this can play out: on a conscious level, I’ve got a blog to write and I’ve selected a topic that is relevant to our readers. Wanting nothing more than to get the job done, my conscious mind jumps in, ready to … Read the rest
“The only thing that fights darkness is the light.”
We can say for certain that 2016 exposed our global vision to the dark side of humanity.
Stories of political fiascoes topped headline news worldwide. Terrorists threatened global safety, killing innocent victims in the most unexpected places. Civil wars slaughtered millions. And, in the U.S., our ethnic inequities boiled to the surface as hatred exposed itself in neighborhoods and cities and even the Presidential election.
The media was alert to keeping us informed, spinning events to garner larger market shares.
By the end of 2016, a dark cloud shrouded attempts at holiday celebrations. Mental fatigue and anxiety were rampant and banning political conversations over holiday dinners became commonplace.
It’s difficult to feel hopeful in the face of uncertainties that appear monumental. And it’s easy to forget that those who’ve gone before us suffered similar challenges, tragedies and fears.
Just imagine how much happened in the world of our ancestors that they never even knew about. News traveled person to person taking days, if not longer, to be shared. It’s been calculated that information now moves 33,480,000 times faster than it did 200 years ago.* It’s no wonder we feel … Read the rest
The weight of it all was wearing me down. It was everywhere. But where I felt it most was inside my head.
In my pantry. In the garage. In the trunk of my car. On top of my desk. In the fridge and the cupboards and closets. Not to mention the worst offender: the in-box(s) on all my devices. Ugh.
Clutter makes me anxious. And anxiety was building as the calendar pointed to the end of 2016.
Many would call our house pretty lean. We’ve moved a bunch, the last time being a year ago, when we moved back in after having to relocate while our house was remodeled from the flood. We’ve already purged a lot.
But that was a year ago, which is a long time when we’re talking about our “stuff.”
I swear, when we leave our “stuff” unattended it procreates – especially the post-it notes! I’m guessing you’ve got your share of it too.
I recently read something in Pema Chodrön’s book Taking the Leap. She wrote about being tasked with dispersing her Mother’s possessions after her passing. She noted how many things her Mother carried with her from home to home; things packed … Read the rest
“The results of Network Chiropractic go beyond the physical body. If you want
to change your body AND your mind, this is a tool you’ll want to use.
The relief is profound and the results are incredible.”
The year was 2009 and the day was rainy. I took a walk, exploring my town while waiting for some car repairs to be completed. You can learn a lot about your town when you get out of the car and walk around in it. The learning on this particular day was exceptional.
For the past few months I’d been suffering with acute body pain. My left arm hurt so much that frequently I’d need to support it with my right arm. I was experiencing back spasms that took my breath away. And on top of that, I had vertigo that was becoming increasingly troubling.
I was a mess and didn’t know where to turn for help. I didn’t want to be medicated; I wanted to get to the cause of the pain and heal it. And I had no idea where to turn.
As luck would have it, I wandered past an interesting building I’d seen a thousand times before, without knowing … Read the rest
The emotional landscape of twinkling lights, soulful music, visions of sugarplums and clinking glasses in a roomful of beautiful, smiling people is in dark contrast to the reality of the experience of the masses of people who are swimming in the murky waters of grief.Grief can come from many sources – most commonly the loss of a loved one. But, job loss, end of relationships, family dysfunction, a health crisis, experiencing a tragic event – are also examples of additional forms of loss that can trigger the grieving process as well. It is a universal emotion that everyone experiences. And we don’t get to pick a convenient time to be thrust into it. Nor can we predict how we’ll respond. It’s as individual as every other human emotion we experience.
The truth is that we will all be the cause of someone else’s… Read the rest
“We are all energy and connected to each other. Love is what will save us.
We must all love each other because on the inside, we are all the same.”
Wise words, spoken in broken English by the middle-aged, Egyptian driver reflecting on the election while taking me to the airport last week. Words that sent shivers up my spine.
Here in the US, we are on the eve of one of the most divisive elections in modern times, exposing some of our greatest current social challenges, highlighting moral differences and shining a light on the importance of the myriad of choices and decisions made daily on our behalf.
What appears to be playing out more dramatically in this election than in past elections, is the human factor. We hold our leaders to a higher standard of ethics and behavior and rightly so. But it’s also important to remember that the government is a combination of the same thing that comprises every family, community, business and country in the world: people.
As my Egyptian driver stated so simply, ”on the inside we are all the same.”
And, I would add, we are all energetically connected to each other and the … Read the rest
“Be patient with yourself. Self-growth is tender; it’s holy ground.
There’s no greater investment.” ~Stephen Covey
Rumblstrips has turned a corner. From a start-up experiment a little over a year-and-a-half ago, to a legitimate online business with potential for growth, we’ve covered a lot of ground and are ready to take it to the next level in every way.
Toward that end it is imperative that Rumblstrips is prepared for the long-term with a solid monetization plan in place to fund its future. The costs to run the business to date have been shouldered personally. But, Rumblstrips, like any other business, needs to stand on its own legs financially in order to continuing evolving and serving.
So today, we announce the first step in the process of building a healthy business by welcoming a new partnership with the independent multi-media publishing company, Sounds True. [Affiliate]
They are veterans in the personal growth marketplace, offering products from a wide variety of experts in the industry at reasonable prices. They are a reputable, conscious company comprised of like-minded thinkers aligned well the Rumblstrips Mission and Purpose.
What does it mean for you?
Access to a wide variety of products offered by … Read the rest
“In an increasingly competitive, cautious and accelerated world,
those who are willing to take risks, step out of their comfort zone and into
the discomfort of uncertainty will be those who will reap the biggest rewards.”
As adults, we human beings are definitely creatures of comfort. There is safety in knowing what to expect. When we abide by established rules governing our thoughts and behaviors, stress and risk are minimized and we experience a state of mental security; we’re in our comfort zone.
Our comfort zone is the creation of our life experiences. Babies are born with a clean slate and day by day, year after year, life experiences begin to fill the energetic space in our mind where our comfort zone resides. Our perceptions and beliefs are formed and become the habits of thought that govern our lives.
But, we live in a world full of uncertainty. And sometimes things happen to us by chance or by choice that require a response outside the boundaries of our existing comfort zone parameters.
We are called to change, to act in ways that are perceived as risky and challenge the well defined limits of our comfort zone. This … Read the rest
“I need to be good to myself, creatively, and refill my own creative well
before I can be any less than a brain-dead zombie.”
It starts with each of us individually. Setting some personal boundaries and putting our own oxygen mask on first will create a chain reaction that will have a positive impact on those around us as the ripple effect is set in motion.
Here are a few ideas for giving your brain a chance to restore and rejuvenate on a daily basis:
- Set your personal and work email address up so they don’t feed through the same email provider on your devices. That way you can still receive personal emails without being distracted by work email during non-working hours.
- Stop checking emails first thing in the morning and right before you go to bed. Establish “working” hours that are reasonable for your work situation and add them to your email signature, if necessary, to set expectations.
- If you need to check in while on vacation, schedule a time once daily and state that in your out-of-office message. Then stick to it.
- If you need to work on weekends, establish a timeframe and stick to
“We need to work against that culture of always being busy and develop
more realistic expectations of what our brains and bodies can handle.”
A couple of short vacations over the summer months opened my eyes to the importance – no, the necessity – of resting my brain while experiencing a change in environment and routine, i.e., taking a vacation.
After just a few days (mostly) disconnected from my laptop and connected to outdoor activities, I began to feel my shoulders drop, my mind open up, my worldview expand and creative energy building.
I heard the voice inside speaking very clearly. What both my body and mind want and need is time for rejuvenation.
Being a soloprenuer of this young business adds an additional layer of challenge in taking time off. There’s always work to be done. And, having grown up on a Midwestern farm where work was required 7-days and 52 weeks a year, work has been part of my routine since I was 8 years old. I know how to work. It’s not working that’s harder for me.… Read the rest
“What would you be doing if you weren’t being
influenced by the reactions of ‘like’ or ‘dislike?’”
~Michael A. Singer
The Surrender Experiment is a true story of what life can be when we surrender our personal opinions about the right or wrong of our experiences and simply allow what life puts in front of us to lead the way.
Best-selling author, Michael A. Singer’s life has played out while living the majority of his adulthood in solitude in a remote, wooded area in the heart of Florida while simultaneously building a thriving meditation center, and a billion-dollar software company. Not without challenges, his remarkable life began to reveal itself after experiencing a spiritual awakening that changed the course of his life completely.
The glue that held his life together through the unexpected circumstances playing out in front of him was his steadfast commitment to a meditation/yoga practice, that evolved as time passed, just like everything else.
His story is about creating a space that allowed a dichotomy to exist; to establish a relationship between his inner world and outer world where both could co-exist peacefully while surrendering to the flow of life. A daily practice to quiet the mind … Read the rest
“Inner stillness is a place where our heart can speak
without the mind running it off the road.”
I’ve come to realize that my path to practicing HeartMath® came about quite by accident and yet was clearly meant to be part of my healing journey.
I’d heard of HeartMath® but never gave it much thought, assuming that it was only about healing physical heart problems, something I fortunately don’t have. But then, heart related “things” started popping up in different areas of my life.
Several hypnotism sessions turned into heart-healing experiences that I didn’t even know I needed. And an eye-opening weekend workshop with the brilliant, Dr. Joe Dispenza, shed light on the connection between our heart and our head and how the battle of the brain to control the heart causes stress in our bodies and struggle in our lives.
And then, when I met Anne Taylor through Kundalini yoga and learned that she is a HeartMath® coach, I knew as a student, I was ready and my teacher had appeared.
Now, six months later, I’ve completed the coursework and implemented daily HeartMath® practice sessions via my HR adapter and the Inner Balance app. I’ve graduated from … Read the rest
“Tarot reading is an art based on intuition, interpretation, and perception.
Tarot cards are your guidance.”
Tarot is another one of the primary tools in the toolbox that has supported my own personal transformation. This box is filled with unique, healing tools that have guided, supported, informed, led and sometimes carried me over the last few difficult years, peeling back layers to reveal the life I am living today. The probability is slim that you would be visiting this website (thank you) without the gifts of tarot and other energetic wisdom tools.
The symbolism in tarot is fascinating. The story that the cards have laid out for me each time I’ve had my tarot read (and I’ve done this many times) has been uncanny; describing my challenges, triumphs, obstacles and pathway as if I am an open book. My readings have provided great clarity and assurance that I am supported energetically every step of the way on my life journey.
Symbolism also presents itself in our dreams and can reflect our subconscious beliefs and messages from our mind. This makes me a bit uncomfortable since my dreams are sometimes surreal and bizarre.
For instance, in a dream awhile … Read the rest
“I have been criticized and ridiculed for turning to astrology,
but after a while, I reached the point where I didn’t care.”
My interest in astrology began as a young reader when I wondered what reason you could possibly have for NOT being interested in what your horoscope revealed in the daily newspaper. The questions became more serious when years later, being a Leo, I wondered whether marrying another Leo was a good idea (turns out it was).
More years would pass before my search for life’s true meaning inspired me to look beyond my horoscope and toward the heavens for guidance. My first professional astrological chart reading was exciting and posed a question I’ve been thinking about ever since. My chart revealed that I was destined to share my gifts with the world in a manner that was very far from my then-current career. The astrologer posed the direct question: “When are you going to start doing what you came here to do?” Well. Alrighty then. Guess I had some course correcting to do.
“What you align to is an accurate reflection of yourself.”
The Book of Knowing and Worth: A Channeled Text*
This thoughtful conversation between Paul Selig and radio host, Adelyn Tvoflove, explores dictated messages from non-physical guides through Paul Selig to help shed light on a new paradigm for raising our personal and our collective consciousness. It is a timely conversation for us as humans, and a reminder that we, as the inhabitants of our planet, must take responsibility for how we operate in the world.
It is a call to action in the most powerful way – from a place of love and compassion – to acknowledge that we are in agreement with whatever it is we are focusing on, and that we empower the energy of thing we are focused on. So pay attention to your thoughts and words and remember that we are what we say we are.
Paul Selig’s Channeled Texts include:
* Channeling is a natural form of communication between humans and non-physical entities, similar to a language translator. They receive non-verbal communication from a non-physical being and translate it into human words.… Read the rest
“Habits are first cobwebs, then cables.”
It’s not BREAKING NEWS! Habits are hard to start, much less change.
Jerry Seinfeld, in a random conversation years ago with a young comic* seeking words of wisdom from the master, expanded on a tool that parents and teachers have known for eons; the Achievement Chart.
When asked for tips on becoming a better comedian, Jerry replied simply,
“The way to be a better comic is to create better jokes and the way to create better jokes is to write every day.”
“After a few days you’ll have a chain. Just keep at it and the chain will grow longer every day. You’ll like seeing that chain, especially when you get a few weeks under your belt. Your only job next is to not break the chain.”
And as the saying goes, the rest, my friend, is history. This short conversation has become what is known as the Seinfeld Calendar … Read the rest
“Walking is Man’s best medicine.”
~Hippocrates, the father of Medicine
I’m a believer. What a great time of year to “step” into (or back into) the pleasurable practice of walking outside. Watch and experience the rebirth of your natural surroundings as you awaken your body through movement, one step at a time.
Here are some tips for starting a walking practice and why walking, particularly outside, is good for body, mind and spirit:
- Walk outside. Did you know we spend 80-90% of our time indoors? Enough is enough. Walking outside and spending time in nature feels good and promotes mind-body health. It beats going to the gym, where the air is stale, it’s noisy, smelly and, let’s be honest, swimming in bacteria. Being outside allows you to experience the natural rhythm of the day and the season while soaking up a healthy dose of Vitamin D. You’ll find that walking outside lifts your spirits and releases stress like nothing else can.
- Walk alone.Nothing against a social walk; they’re good for you too. But, developing a personal practice of walking alone will take you to an entirely different place. It is a fantastic form of mindfulness meditation and will
“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.”
Despite its roots in ancient Traditional Chinese Medicine, there’s a relative newcomer to the alternative healing industry. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) or “Tapping” as it’s often referred to, is creating quite a buzz. Ask anyone who’s used it before and you’ll get a two-word answer: “it works!” Whether you work with a certified practitioner, figure it out on your own, or a combination of the two, this is a healing modality you’ll definitely want to add to your personal practice. It is one that can be used anytime, anywhere and with significant results.
Why is it called tapping? I don’t know, but it makes sense because the practice itself “taps” into the body’s energy, releasing negative emotions and symptoms that have accumulated, creating physical results like chronic pain, disease, emotional responses to traumatic experiences, addictive behaviors, non-supportive habits and outdated beliefs. Tapping on the meridians that connect everything in our body releases energy blockages thus restoring and balancing our energy flow to its natural state of being.
As the saying goes, when the student is ready the teacher appears. I’ve been wanting to try tapping … Read the rest
- Fill your favorite mug with warm (not hot) water
- Squeeze juice from half of a fresh lemon (organic if possible) into the water
- Feel it warm your body as it travels to your stomach and beyond
I am one of those oddballs; I don’t drink coffee. I don’t even like the smell of it. But sometimes I start my day with my own version of a caffeine. My morning kick comes in the form of a silver can with a black and red label. And it isn’t good for you in any way, shape or form. And I know from experience that the first thing that goes into my mouth in the morning will impact many of my food/beverage choices for the remainder of the day.
It’s a habit I’m challenging.
Replacing my morning caffeine kick with warm, lemon water is the new habit I am building. I love the way it tastes and I love the way it feels as it travels down my throat and into my belly, warming the pathway as it goes. Putting something warm and refreshing in my stomach first thing in the morning – now that’s good habit!
The benefits of lemons are … Read the rest
“To heal from the inside out is the key. “
~ Wynonna Judd
It took me a long time to try energy healing. And in hindsight I would call it the first tool I reached for on my healing journey. Although I had spent years in introspection, countless hours walking, practiced my own version of home-based yoga and read book after book on personal growth, the time came to admit it; I was stuck.
No longer could I function in state of what I pretended was “the blues.” I had to admit to myself that I was likely suffering from depression that was impacting my relationships and my family. I didn’t see a happy ending to the trajectory I was on. This was not the life I wanted to be living. And it was time to own it and do something about it. I knew I need support.
And so I tiptoed to the edge of the metaphorical, transformational pond, stuck my toes gingerly into the water and watched the ripple emerge. I had a professional relationship with someone I knew was an energy healer and began to connect with her on a personal level. We talked about energy healing … Read the rest