Coming Back to Center: 5 Helpful Steps

“In the very center of your being, life begins in silence and in joy.”
~Debasish Mridha

cen·ter: ˈsen(t)er: a point, pivot, axis, etc., around which anything rotates or revolves

The Holidays have come and gone and the New Year has begun. For many of us that means coming back to center and to ourselves. So how exactly does one get back to center? My first response is slowly and gently. If you have ever noticed pushing does not help. And rushing as if you’re life is an emergency also does not work.

in the center of your beingSo what does work? This will probably not sound sexy but slow, small repeatable steps actually get us to our goal in the most reliable manner with our beings intact. If you’re anything like me, this will probably feel counter-intuitive. I often like to move ahead quickly with noticeable gains.

The problem with this is that it’s not sustainable over the long haul. It’s okay for short-term gains but if what your interested in is in long-term goals that won’t stress out your entire being then small, doable baby steps is what you want to do every day from your center point.

Your center point is created from what you are committed to along with your long-term intentions as well as daily intentions.

So let’s say you want to write a book. Your center point is equal to:

  • What I’m committed to: writing and completing a book
  • My intention is: To write a book that brings healing and light to the world
  • My daily intention: to set aside 2 hours to work on my book

By clearly setting your commitment and your intentions, you take away the power of the doubting voice that may dissuade you to keep going with your goals or seduce you into confusion about what you are doing. All you have to do is to remind yourself of your commitment and intentions and then get busy following through on your actions.

Each day, through your actions you keep reinforcing your center.

Here are 5 steps to help you to come back to your center:

  1. Begin to meditate daily—even 5 minutes will make a huge difference.
  2. Begin to move your body! Bodies like to move, trust me, you will feel far more inspired if you get moving physically. If you’ve been comatose, just simply begin by stretching, then get walking, then join a gym or a class of some kind.
  3. Don’t know what you want to commit to? Try this: Imagine you have one year left to live…now what do you want to do? Not inspired yet? Imagine you’re on your death bed and you feel grateful for the life you have lived….what did it look like? What were all the things you loved about your life? Pick one thing to commit to from this fantasy!
  4. Enlist your friends…..tell them what you are committing to so that you have some accountability. Staying committed to a long-term goal can get tough, plan for the days when you will want to quit by having accountability buddies…it works!
  5. Write your goals in places where you will see them daily! Write down why you want to commit to a goal. Reminding yourself why you took the goal on in the first place will be helpful on those days when you’re exhausted and you can’t yet see the finish line.

Enjoy the entire process! Remember that you came here to grow and in order to grow we must use new muscles whether they are physical or mental muscles! Congratulate yourself every day for showing up!

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About Ellen Newhouse

Ellen Newhouse is an author, healer & storyteller. She currently practices in Seattle, integrating Acupuncture with Sound Healing, Energy Medicine and Intuitive Coaching. Visit Ellen at Her memoir, “Nothing Ever Goes on Here” was published in 2014 and is available on Amazon at

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