Just Whisper

“If you want to capture someone’s attention, whisper.”

There was a commercial years ago that used the phrase ‘if you want to capture someone’s attention, whisper.’ I long ago forgot what was being sold, though the phrase stuck in my head and has rattled around for years. You know, it’s true. It happens in the local coffee shop or grocery store; any place where women gather. If two women start whispering, there will be others instantly hushed and straining to hear snippets of what is being shared.

I grew up in a raucous house with seven brothers and sisters. The moment we would lower our voices to a whisper, my mom would call out from distant rooms to say she heard us. It was an amazing mom feat that always kept us on our toes.

We all have an inner voice that whispers to us. That quiet, loving, wise voice deep within is poised to guide, nudging us toward our true path. However, it’s the one voice where that theory does not seem to apply. It’s our truest, most loyal friend. It never waivers or falters or fails us. And yet, most of us go to great lengths to distance ourselves from our inner whisperer.

We have a bad connection

There are so many ways we muck with the connection. One favorite is busyness. We pack our schedules with unrelenting activities. We are a society that fears downtime. If we keep running we won’t have to listen. Stillness is almost unbearable. And yet, we crave it.

whisperingWe strive for perfection. In our striving, we often relinquish our own power to listen to others. We pay a lot of money to have others tell us how to eat, how to sculpt the perfect body, how to find the perfect partner, how to raise our children so they’ll get into the perfect university and to be happy.

We numb ourselves so that we can tune out the whisper. A glass of wine to take the edge off, a cup of coffee to build artificial energy, our ever-present technology so that there is not a moment when that inner voice might touch us. We try to stuff ourselves with food, drink, activities so that we don’t have to turn inward and face the emotions and feelings we’ve stuffed away for far too long.

If it weren’t so tragic, it would be comical. Think of the old Roadrunner, or Sylvester the Cat cartoons, always trying to outwit the opponent and never succeeding.

Turn down the noise to turn up the volume.

Dear sweet reader, stop. Stop running from the whisper. In truth, it will become a roar if you avoid it. It will capture your attention one way or another. Stress, weight gain, illness, money woes, unfulfilling jobs, broken relationships and despair are some of the ways it gets our attention.

Clear your calendar, and your family’s. Unplug from non-essential commitments for a while. Try a technology fast. Yes, it can feel scary, and also very liberating and powerful. Establish a Sabbath, a personal day of rest. Create an hour each day to foster the most important relationship in your life: the one with your inner whisperer. It is your soul. It will never, ever lead you astray. This relationship can only be built in quiet communion with yourself.

Why is a nutritionist writing about inner voice? When we start listening to our inner whisperer, we connect with our body’s innate wisdom. We fall in love with and cherish the human vessel that houses that voice. Choosing foods to honor our body becomes easy. We nourish our lives in beautiful ways that support our health and allow joy to flourish. Listen for your whispers.

Visit Barb at www.joyfuleats.com

About Barbara Heinen

Barbara Heinen, NC, is a holistic nutrition coach and owner of Joyful Eats LLC. She helps people birth their best lives using delicious nutrient-dense foods and nourishing lifestyle practices. She graduated with honors from Bauman College of Holistic Nutrition and Culinary Arts, and studied at the BioIndividual Nutrition Institute. She’s thrilled to share her life with her awesome husband, four fabulous kids and one rascally pup. Her adventures include world traveling, hiking and bicycling, and of course, cooking and sharing meals together with family and friends. Visit her at www.joyfuleats.com

2 Responses to Just Whisper

  1. Karen K says:

    Thank you so much for taking the time to write and to share! Ahhhh! So beautiful and moving! Xo

    • Rita Graving says:

      From Barb Heinen: “So glad you enjoyed the article. I’m curious. Are you tuning into your whispers? Have you found it helpful in discerning your path?”

      From Rita Graving: Thank you for visiting this site and your comments to Barb. She’s a fantastic writer and an inspiration! Come back soon 🙂

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