My Favorite Question

“You are capable of so much more than we usually dare to imagine”
~Sharon Salzberg

The sign on the blackboard said, “When you always do what you’ve always done, you always get what you’ve always got!” I saw that many years ago and it resonates to this very day.

I love the inherent invitation and wisdom of that statement – that the power of change lies in our willingness to use the brain to create a road map to the future rather than merely serve as a record of the past.

It doesn’t matter the situation, history, story, complaint or pattern we are experiencing. With 40% of our brain housing our creativity center, focused on delivering answers to queries and crafting ideas and visualizations, the powerful question that sparks that solution seeking region and grows us beyond our discomfort is always the same.

What are you going to do about that?

Seems like a simple question, however its invitations and implications are huge. Why? Because we are always proving to ourselves who we’ve always been or we’re demonstrating who we are growing into. And, this question clearly asks us to reach for our options and aspirations instead of living equal to our current circumstances.

This catalytic question gets us out of our head, challenging perceived limitations and the illusion that we lack options. Instead, it settles us right into our heart, into desire and into choice.

Consider a recent conversation.

A client was lamenting over the business levels of her practice; reason after reason of why she wasn’t successful seemed very legitimate to her. Every judgment was represented as out of her control; the economy, the neighborhood, schedules and income levels, lack of website visits and referrals, etc. The litany went on and I stopped her just as she was about to launch into yet another reason that was preventing success and kept her living her life in a series of re-runs.

whats your storyIt was a fascinating conversation where she never recognized that she was the common denominator controlling her results; that her thought process was steeped in thinking and doing what she had always done and so she was getting what she had always gotten.

It’s typical of what we all do … until we don’t.

So I asked my favorite question, what are you going to do about that? That question started a forward lean into possibilities as we revisited every objection and limitation, replacing each with a strategy married to an action step leading to a more desirable future outcome.

This is the very thing we are all invited to do when we bump into areas of our lives where we feel stuck, triggered or just tired of looking at our life through the lens of our past.

Ask yourself ‘the question!’

Allow the question to first generate the preferences that live in your heart; preferences that have you living as a creator rather than a replicator. What new outcome is desired and worth commitment and effort? Make it personal, make it powerful, and know that whatever inspiration comes to you can be experienced and accomplished. That’s the soul’s call and promise.

And next, action. Action born from looking at a situation with fresh eyes focused on an end result steeped in that personal preference. A strong desire married to consistent action steps will shift focus, build courage and foster momentum. Purposeful action creates elevated emotions that drive us to the future where a grander version of ourselves is waiting.

We are always ready for change, for more, for something new in some area of our life. Testing our greatness is one of the gifts of the human experience.

When the time comes to stop re-living the past and end the anxiety and distress, boldly ask What am I going to do about that? It’s the very way to choose to do what you haven’t yet done so that you will get what you yearn to acquire and desire to become.

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About Nancy Carlstrom

Professional Life Coach, Nancy Carlstrom, CDC, has been awakening and guiding her international client base to create positive, sustainable change in their lives and careers for well over 12 years. She works closely with individuals, leaders, teams and businesses to develop transformational strength-based strategies, practices and mindsets that support one’s dreams and goals for a meaningful life – personally and professionally. As an accountability partner, ‘hold your feet to the fire’ instigator and unwavering champion for every client’s success, Nancy is passionately committed to helping people ignite their passion and initiate lasting change.

One Response to My Favorite Question

  1. Jackie says:

    Great article, Nancy Carlstrom!
    I love the question: What are you going to do about it?!
    It begs us to move into action, otherwise we will see ourselves back doing the same ole, same ole and getting the same ole, same ole!!!!

    Thank you for sharing your wisdom!

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