“You’ve been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked.
Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”
As the New Year unfolds and picks up speed, I’m wondering how you are doing on the goals you’ve set up for yourself this year?
Oftentimes, this can be the point at which people’s enthusiasm and motivation starts to wane.
Conceivably, you started your new year off with a list of resolutions and goals and were intent to make them happen this year.
Perhaps you’d even gone a step further.
In place of making a list of resolutions, you decided to no longer be subject to that voice of “should” but instead allowed your voice of creation to prevail. You created and designed your new year from an advantage point of vision and clarity.
And, it felt really good and empowering to do this, didn’t it?
You knew this would be a fantastic year. You felt really focused and engaged.
And then something changed.
You’ve noticed your focus is dwindling. You’ve noticed how you have started doing the laundry, washing the dishes, checking Facebook and all sorts of other things, instead of being focused and taking action steps toward your goals, your vision, your dreams for 2017.
You’ve lost your direction, or so it seems. You begin to wonder if you really did want that goal/vision/dream anyway.
You begin to doubt yourself and think you may have made a mistake in thinking this is something you could have, accomplish, attain.
This usually is a sign that you’ve been hacked by your own your inner saboteur and it’s attempting to steer you away from your vision and playing havoc with your goals.
Self-sabotage is not uncommon to most of us, although often it goes under our radar or it gets perceived as an external problem that we have no control over.
But once you become aware of what it is, why it’s happening and how you can stop it, you can be back on track to taking those inspiring action steps and having a life that feels engaged and on purpose.
Your inner saboteur is buddies with fear!
Fear wants to protect you, which can be a good thing! After all, you probably should feel some fear when you are standing at the edge of a cliff to keep you from simply walking over the edge and ending your life!
Yet fear can be deceptive in other areas of our lives. It may look like It’s helping, but often it really isn’t.
That’s because fear doesn’t like change. Change feels threatening and so fear wants to protect you from getting hurt, being humiliated, ashamed, overworked, and stretching out of your comfort zone.
It collaborates with your inner saboteur to get you to do anything else, but change and realize your vision and goals.
Now you know what’s really happening when you are off wandering down Facebook lane and have lost your zeal. Now you can put a STOP to that behavior and take back control.
Getting back and keeping on track for the year you’ve created and designed simply starts with awareness and these other simple actions you can take:
- Become the observer of yourself.
When you detach and become the observer of your thoughts and behaviors, you’ll have a vantage point to catch them before they run amok and try to derail your best efforts.
- Question that “voice” that says you “should” check email, fb, etc. while in the middle of a project that is moving you forward.
Ask it what it needs. Maybe you just need a conscious time out, instead of unconsciously allowing distractions to give it to you.
Maybe you’re having challenges and need some support to keep moving forward.
When you question with curiosity, you are being compassionate with yourself, you get authentic answers and you can find solutions.
- Remember: You are in charge!
Fear has its place, but not here on your path to your dreams.
You are the one choosing to have a fabulous 2017.
As you keep choosing that decision over and over again, you are giving strength to your vision and goals.
- Picture yourself at the end of 2017 having completed all you created for this year!
Commit to a daily practice of 5 minutes where you immerse yourself in your vision.
Know all the thoughts, behaviors and feelings you will have when you completed the year and done all you set out to do for yourself.
The more you know these attributes of your success, the more you can operate from that feeling state NOW.
Operating from this higher-level feeling will turn your inner saboteur into your inner cheerleader for your success!
If you need support in getting the inner saboteur under control, hypnotherapy is a great vehicle to take you on the path of being aligned with your vision and goals while utilizing your own unique inner resources.
Make it a great year!!