Tag Archives: Barbara Heinen

Can You Change Without Changing?

“The first step toward change is awareness. The second step is acceptance”.
~Nathaniel Branden

I get asked this question daily in my holistic nutrition practice. It is not that overt. It is asked or stated in myriad ways. Can I heal without giving up this certain food? Can I get rid of my respiratory issues without giving up smoking? Can I lose weight without moving my body? Can I eat the same foods I’ve been eating and still lose weight or feel better? When you break these questions down to their essence, they are all the same. Can I change without changing?  It is a far easier question to answer.

Through years of personal research I can state unequivocally that you can NOT change without changing. Believe me, I have tried every way around this over time. I have tried bargaining with myself, going halfway, roughing up my self-esteem and topnotch avoidance. The only thing that works is changing up what is not aligned with your highest self.

We’re going on a bear hunt

One of my children’s favorite books is ‘We’re Going on a Bear Hunt’ by Michael Rosen. The family meets many obstacles along the way, and the … Read the rest


Plan Now to Savor the Season

“One cannot collect all the beautiful shells on the beach.
One can collect only a few, and they are more beautiful if they are few.”

~Anne Morrow Lindbergh

Listening to Seashells …  

December 22, 2014, I woke up early ready to attack the day, the week, my to-do list. I stepped out of bed, and my foot landed on something that crunched. I turned on the lamp next to my bed to examine what was now a pool of crumbs. A seashell. On my bedroom floor. In Wisconsin. On December 22. This was clearly a message. It was the latest in a series of them. It is said that sea shells symbolize the quality of life that purifies and sustains. I let out an appreciative chuckle.

You see, a year earlier on the last day of December, 2013 as I sat feeling frustrated, stressed and depressed, I vowed that it would not happen again. I had spent the month rushing, panicking, stressing, trying to create the perfect Christmas experience for my family when in fact, it was there all the time. I just needed to stop. I simply needed to be present for it. In the pursuit of perfection, I … Read the rest


When Life Overwhelms

“I feel safe in the rhythm and flow of ever-changing life.”
~Louise Hay

Be the river. Let go. Stop resisting. Flow.

Have you ever had one of those months? This past month was grueling for me. I found myself depleted and struggling against life. It was difficult to make it through each day. I was worn out and fantasized about crawling into a ball in the middle of my bed and spending the entire day there, hiding under my covers. Each request or demand for my time and attention felt like nails on a chalkboard and increased my angst. There was no particular trigger or event. It was a cumulative effect of too much doing and not enough being. I had stopped taking the time to listen and connect with my inner voice.

river path viewI walk my dog each day along a lovely river path. I am fascinated by its changing beauty through the seasons. It feeds my soul. The river’s current evolves from strong and powerful to peaceful and meandering. In the middle of winter, I can catch glimpses of it still flowing beneath the icy crust. Always. It flows. One particular day when I was feeling like I wanted … Read the rest