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Learning to Love Yourself: A Simple 5 Step Prescription

“We need to love ourselves first, in all our glory and imperfections.
If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot open to our ability to love others.”
~John Lennon

Love, Ah yes, that most elusive and most desired experience that all of us humans seem to want in this world. So why is it so difficult to attain it? Why is it such a misunderstood subject?

After working with people in private practice for the last 26 years in NYC, Boulder CO and Seattle I have come to see that love is the most misunderstood human experience. For most of us, we look for love in all the wrong places, mainly in other people: praying to find our beloved and live happily ever after.

The truth is, we will never be satisfied with another and their love offering until we are willing to love ourselves. When I explain this to my patients, I am almost always met with great resistance. I can see the pain in their hearts as they look at me and say, “Are you suggesting, Ellen, that I give up looking for my soul mate? Or worse, are you suggesting that I will never meet my soul mate?” … Read the rest


What Are You Afraid Of?

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage.
If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”
~Dale Carnegie

 

Fear will tell you, “It’s not a good idea.  It’s a stupid idea. It’s not original enough, smart enough, wise enough…..or it’s not ( fill in the blank) enough!

More often than not, if we don’t attend to the voice of fear, it will grow stronger and suddenly, your idea becomes you. “You are foolish for ever thinking that your idea would be interesting, you are stupid, you are not good enough….you are not (fill in the blank) enough.

Fear hopes to keep you stuck in the little box of your limited thinking.

Love comes and says, “Open your heart, and listen inside…… what do you hear? Love encourages us to grow, to leap into the unknown, to trust in the impossible and to have faith that your heart will lead you in the “right” way for you.

So why, why do we tend to think that the voice of fear is more reliable than the voice of love? Why do we hang onto that old critical voice … Read the rest


A Simple Step to Receiving What You Desire

“Until we can receive with an open heart,
we’re never really giving with an open heart.”

~Brené Brown

We all talk about wanting more….more abundance, more wealth,  better relationships, a relationship….and on it goes. But then someone gives us a simple compliment and we push it away saying things like, “Oh, it was really nothing, or Oh, I like your (fill in the blank,) or brushing it off quickly with an, “Oh, thanks” or worse, simply by not saying anything at all.

It doesn’t make sense. When we don’t receive a compliment, we are giving the universe the message that we don’t want all the abundance that we say we do. We are pushing away all the goodness, all the abundance the universe is attempting to give us.

This came screeching home to me last week when out of the blue I began to think about a review I had gotten a year ago for my book from a very prestigious book award organization.

I found out last March that I hadn’t won the award and in May, I received their review and rating of the book. I didn’t even want to open the email. Despite my fear, I watched … Read the rest


The Art of Allowing Joy!

“When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy.”
~ Rumi

Spring is upon us, the cherry blossoms in their full bloom are bowing to the shifting skies. The sideways rains pound upon the window panes, the air is filled with a refreshing chill and the sweet scent of promise.

the risk it took t blossomWhile running in the early morning rain, I have been thinking about this promise that we feel awaken at the first breaths of Spring. What is this promise? In part, it is the promise of fulfillment. It is also the promise of joy. We hope to see our seeds bearing fruit.

As I have been contemplating Joy, I have begun to wonder when does Joy arise. We allow ourselves to feel the full breadth and wonder of joy at the birth of a child, birthday celebrations, engagements, weddings, graduations, promotions, sunsets, smelling a sweet honeysuckle bud and the beginning of relationships. These events seem to lend themselves to a universal experience of joy. But, I wondered, where else do people allow themselves to experience joy?

Where do you allow yourself to experience Joy?

I made a list for all those places I experience … Read the rest


The Discomfort and Rewards of Change

The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it,
move with it, and join the dance.”
~Alan Watts

“I want to run away as fast as I can.”

“I want to hide under the covers for forever.”

“I want to go back to my old relationship….it wasn’t that bad.”

If you have ever had these thoughts, then you know just how uncomfortable real change can be.

We all say we want to change. And we believe it. We want to have more. More money, more fulfillment, more fun, more weight loss and more time to do the things that we really want to do.

But when we finally go for the changes that it will actually take to have a different life than the one we are currently living, we suddenly realize that true change is tough. It requires amongst other things, the ability to tolerate sitting with discomfort long enough for the change to occur. Despite what the motivational speakers tout, real change does not mostly happen in an instant or a day or two.

Real change usually takes time.

if you want somthingAt first, as you sit in the unknown and the discomfort of … Read the rest


Coming Back to Center: 5 Helpful Steps

“In the very center of your being, life begins in silence and in joy.”
~Debasish Mridha

cen·ter: ˈsen(t)er: a point, pivot, axis, etc., around which anything rotates or revolves

The Holidays have come and gone and the New Year has begun. For many of us that means coming back to center and to ourselves. So how exactly does one get back to center? My first response is slowly and gently. If you have ever noticed pushing does not help. And rushing as if you’re life is an emergency also does not work.

in the center of your beingSo what does work? This will probably not sound sexy but slow, small repeatable steps actually get us to our goal in the most reliable manner with our beings intact. If you’re anything like me, this will probably feel counter-intuitive. I often like to move ahead quickly with noticeable gains.

The problem with this is that it’s not sustainable over the long haul. It’s okay for short-term gains but if what your interested in is in long-term goals that won’t stress out your entire being then small, doable baby steps is what you want to do every day from your center point.

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Be The Change . . .

“They always say time changes things,
but you actually have to change them yourself.”

~Andy Warhol

. . . YOU WANT TO SEE IN YOUR LIFE

Another year is closing its door! As we complete this year, I’d like for you to take an inventory of your year. What went well for you? What didn’t go so well? Then I’d like you to ask yourself this simple but profound question:

Are you the person to create the life you so desire? If so, fantastic!

If not, I’d like you to consider this: who would you need to be to create the life you desire? What qualities would you need to have? What education would you need to have? What skills would you need to have? And most importantly, what attitudes and beliefs would you need to have?

i believe successAs you create your lists, I’d like you to begin to start imagining the person you would need to become if you had all the criteria on your lists. What would this person look like? Act like? Would they feel deserving of having all the good you desire? Do you feel deserving of all the good you desire? What beliefs and attitudes do … Read the rest


Creating the Life You Want

ellen newhouse showIf you’re ready to create the life you have always dreamed of, come join me as I offer you the profoundly simple steps to consciously creating your dream life—the operating manual is so close—it’s right there within your very reach! So excited to share this with you!

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I Dare You!

On the other side of darkness, I met the light.”
~Ellen Newhouse,
Nothing Ever Goes On Here

As we begin to come to a close for 2015, I am so grateful that I was invited by the universe last winter to step my game up. If you had told me then that I would be grateful for my long and arduous 4 month long passage into the underworld known so well known by the Greek maiden, Kore, who later becomes Queen Persephone, I would have told you, you were flat out crazy!

celebrate lifeLearning to surf such turbulent waters, fraught with fear, has now brought me to this time of great joy filled with abundant creativity, wonder and magic. The magic that I speak of is when we finally dare to recognize our true selves and stop playing according to old worn out beliefs or familial opinions about who we are or are supposed to be. When we realize that we are truly in charge of our lives and destiny, magic ensues everywhere!

Regardless of where you are right now, know that you indeed have the power to decide who you want to be and how you want your … Read the rest


4 Ways to Practice Sound Energy

One of the great things about Sound Healing is that you can easily do it for yourself! To begin to enhance your overall health, your mind, body & spirit with Sound Healing:

1.  Finding peacefulness and calm

calm-symbolSit quietly and take a few slow deep breaths. Bring your attention to your second chakra (4 finger widths below your belly button) and take a few more slow deep breaths in and out.

Notice without judgment if your mind wants to wander. Then bring your attention back to that area below your navel.

Take a deep breath in and on the exhale tone/sing the sound OM, inhale again and exhale with OM. Repeat for several minutes keeping your attention on your second chakra

After a few minutes, you’ll notice that you’re considerably calmer. This sense of peace will help you as you move through your day.

2.  Changing traffic

traffic jamHere’s a fun game you play with when stuck in traffic. Pick a lane and envision the traffic in front of you moving as you sing an ‘AH’ I love this practice and do it all the time. As I get focused and sing the traffic begins to move. Then just for fun, … Read the rest


Sound Healing: Aligning With Your Personal Symphony

“Sound is the medicine of the future.”
~Edgar Cayce

Sound has been utilized in various cultures for thousands of years as a tool for healing. Whether through the use of mantras as with the Hindis, the Icaros (medicine melodies) of various Indigenous peoples from Central and South America, or Pythagoras’ use of interval and frequency, these various techniques all have the same intention: to move us from a place of imbalance to a place of balance.

The World is Sound!

The Ancient Mystery Schools of Greece, Rome, Egypt, Tibet and India as well as the First People’s shamans all had great knowledge of the power of sound. Sound was understood as the primary creative force in the universe. The ancients knew what modern physicists are now finally understanding; that everything is in a state of vibration, and everything is energy. “The world is Sound!” proclaimed the ancient mystics and indeed it seems to be so.
I first came to Sound Healing as a young, reluctant healer 26 years ago. One day as I was working with a patient, my spirit guides insisted that I put an “O” sound into my patient. To say I was shocked is putting it mildly.… Read the rest


Learning To Love Yourself: A Simple 5 Step Prescription

“We need to love ourselves first, in all our glory and imperfections.
If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot open to our ability to love others.”
~John Lennon

Love, Ah yes, that most elusive and most desired experience that all of us humans seem to want in this world. So why is it so difficult to attain it? Why is it such a misunderstood subject?

After working with people in private practice for the last 26 years in NYC, Boulder CO and Seattle I have come to see that love is the most misunderstood human experience. For most of us, we look for love in all the wrong places, mainly in other people: praying to find our beloved and live happily ever after.

The truth is, we will never be satisfied with another and their love offering until we are willing to love ourselves. When I explain this to my patients, I am almost always met with great resistance. I can see the pain in their hearts as they look at me and say, “Are you suggesting, Ellen, that I give up looking for my soul mate? Or worse, are you suggesting that I will never meet my soul mate?” … Read the rest