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Why HeartMath®?

“Inner stillness is a place where our heart can speak
without the mind running it off the road.”
~Doc Childre

I’ve come to realize that my path to practicing HeartMath® came about quite by accident and yet was clearly meant to be part of my healing journey.

I’d heard of HeartMath® but never gave it much thought, assuming that it was only about healing physical heart problems, something I fortunately don’t have. But then, heart related “things” started popping up in different areas of my life.

Several hypnotism sessions turned into heart-healing experiences that I didn’t even know I needed. And an eye-opening weekend workshop with the brilliant, Dr. Joe Dispenza, shed light on the connection between our heart and our head and how the battle of the brain to control the heart causes stress in our bodies and struggle in our lives.

And then, when I met Anne Taylor through Kundalini yoga and learned that she is a HeartMath® coach, I knew as a student, I was ready and my teacher had appeared.

Now, six months later, I’ve completed the coursework and implemented daily HeartMath® practice sessions via my HR adapter and the Inner Balance app. I’ve graduated from Read the rest

A Paradigm Shift and a Headless Warrior

tarot cards

“Tarot reading is an art based on intuition, interpretation, and perception.
Tarot cards are your guidance.”
~Nikita Dudani

Tarot is another one of the primary tools in the toolbox that has supported my own personal transformation. This box is filled with unique, healing tools that have guided, supported, informed, led and sometimes carried me over the last few difficult years, peeling back layers to reveal the life I am living today. The probability is slim that you would be visiting this website (thank you) without the gifts of tarot and other energetic wisdom tools.

The symbolism in tarot is fascinating. The story that the cards have laid out for me each time I’ve had my tarot read (and I’ve done this many times) has been uncanny; describing my challenges, triumphs, obstacles and pathway as if I am an open book. My readings have provided great clarity and assurance that I am supported energetically every step of the way on my life journey.

Symbolism also presents itself in our dreams and can reflect our subconscious beliefs and messages from our mind. This makes me a bit uncomfortable since my dreams are sometimes surreal and bizarre.

For instance, in a dream awhile … Read the rest

Beyond the Horoscope

“I have been criticized and ridiculed for turning to astrology,
but after a while, I reached the point where I didn’t care.”

~Nancy Reagan

My interest in astrology began as a young reader when I wondered what reason you could possibly have for NOT being interested in what your horoscope revealed in the daily newspaper. The questions became more serious when years later, being a Leo, I wondered whether marrying another Leo was a good idea (turns out it was).

More years would pass before my search for life’s true meaning inspired me to look beyond my horoscope and toward the heavens for guidance. My first professional astrological chart reading was exciting and posed a question I’ve been thinking about ever since. My chart revealed that I was destined to share my gifts with the world in a manner that was very far from my then-current career. The astrologer posed the direct question: “When are you going to start doing what you came here to do?” Well. Alrighty then. Guess I had some course correcting to do.

Fast forward a couple years and I’d be strongly encouraged to again have my chart read by Heather Ensworth, a Ph.D. Clinical … Read the rest

The Frequency of Love: Interview with Paul Selig

“What you align to is an accurate reflection of yourself.”
~Paul Selig,

The Book of Knowing and Worth: A Channeled Text*

This thoughtful conversation between Paul Selig and radio host, Adelyn Tvoflove, explores dictated messages from non-physical guides through Paul Selig to help shed light on a new paradigm for raising our personal and our collective consciousness. It is a timely conversation for us as humans, and a reminder that we, as the inhabitants of our planet, must take responsibility for how we operate in the world.

It is a call to action in the most powerful way – from a place of love and compassion – to acknowledge that we are in agreement with whatever it is we are focusing on, and that we empower the energy of thing we are focused on. So pay attention to your thoughts and words and remember that we are what we say we are.

Paul Selig’s Channeled Texts include:

I am the wordthe book of knowing and worththe book of masterythe book of love creation






* Channeling is a natural form of communication between humans and non-physical entities, similar to a language translator. They receive non-verbal communication from a non-physical being and translate it into human words.Read the rest

Building the New Habit Muscle

“Habits are first cobwebs, then cables.”
~Spanish Proverb

It’s not BREAKING NEWS! Habits are hard to start, much less change.

Jerry Seinfeld, in a random conversation years ago with a young comic* seeking words of wisdom from the master, expanded on a tool that parents and teachers have known for eons; the Achievement Chart.

When asked for tips on becoming a better comedian, Jerry replied simply,

“The way to be a better comic is to create better jokes and the way to create better jokes is to write every day.”

keep building the chainHe said to get a big wall calendar showing a whole year, hang it where you’ll see it every day, get a red marker and make an “X” on every day that the young comic sat down to write jokes.

After a few days you’ll have a chain. Just keep at it and the chain will grow longer every day. You’ll like seeing that chain, especially when you get a few weeks under your belt. Your only job next is to not break the chain.

And as the saying goes, the rest, my friend, is history. This short conversation has become what is known as the Seinfeld Calendar … Read the rest

Walk Your Way to Health and Happiness

“Walking is Man’s best medicine.
~Hippocrates, the father of Medicine

I’m a believer. What a great time of year to “step” into (or back into) the pleasurable practice of walking outside. Watch and experience the rebirth of your natural surroundings as you awaken your body through movement, one step at a time.

Here are some tips for starting a walking practice and why walking, particularly outside, is good for body, mind and spirit:

  • Walk outside. Did you know we spend 80-90% of our time indoors? Enough is enough. Walking outside and spending time in nature feels good and promotes mind-body health. It beats going to the gym, where the air is stale, it’s noisy, smelly and, let’s be honest, swimming in bacteria. Being outside allows you to experience the natural rhythm of the day and the season while soaking up a healthy dose of Vitamin D. You’ll find that walking outside lifts your spirits and releases stress like nothing else can.
  • Walk alone.Nothing against a social walk; they’re good for you too. But, developing a personal practice of walking alone will take you to an entirely different place. It is a fantastic form of mindfulness meditation and will
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Tap Into Healing

“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.”
~Tony Robbins

Despite its roots in ancient Traditional Chinese Medicine, there’s a relative newcomer to the alternative healing industry. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) or “Tapping” as it’s often referred to, is creating quite a buzz. Ask anyone who’s used it before and you’ll get a two-word answer: “it works!” Whether you work with a certified practitioner, figure it out on your own, or a combination of the two, this is a healing modality you’ll definitely want to add to your personal practice. It is one that can be used anytime, anywhere and with significant results.

tapping pointsWhy is it called tapping? I don’t know, but it makes sense because the practice itself “taps” into the body’s energy, releasing negative emotions and symptoms that have accumulated, creating physical results like chronic pain, disease, emotional responses to traumatic experiences, addictive behaviors, non-supportive habits and outdated beliefs. Tapping on the meridians that connect everything in our body releases energy blockages thus restoring and balancing our energy flow to its natural state of being.

As the saying goes, when the student is ready the teacher appears. I’ve been wanting to try tapping … Read the rest

10 Reasons Why You’ll Want to Build This New Morning Habit


  • Fill your favorite mug with warm (not hot) water
  • Squeeze juice from half of a fresh lemon (organic if possible) into the water
  • Feel it warm your body as it travels to your stomach and beyond

I am one of those oddballs; I don’t drink coffee. I don’t even like the smell of it. But sometimes I start my day with my own version of a caffeine. My morning kick comes in the form of a silver can with a black and red label. And it isn’t good for you in any way, shape or form. And I know from experience that the first thing that goes into my mouth in the morning will impact many of my food/beverage choices for the remainder of the day.
It’s a habit I’m challenging.

Replacing my morning caffeine kick with warm, lemon water is the new habit I am building. I love the way it tastes and I love the way it feels as it travels down my throat and into my belly, warming the pathway as it goes. Putting something warm and refreshing in my stomach first thing in the morning – now that’s good habit!

The benefits of lemons are … Read the rest

Heal Your Energy and Get Unstuck

“To heal from the inside out is the key. “
~ Wynonna Judd

It took me a long time to try energy healing. And in hindsight I would call it the first tool I reached for on my healing journey. Although I had spent years in introspection, countless hours walking, practiced my own version of home-based yoga and read book after book on personal growth, the time came to admit it; I was stuck.

No longer could I function in state of what I pretended was “the blues.” I had to admit to myself that I was likely suffering from depression that was impacting my relationships and my family. I didn’t see a happy ending to the trajectory I was on. This was not the life I wanted to be living. And it was time to own it and do something about it. I knew I need support.

And so I tiptoed to the edge of the metaphorical, transformational pond, stuck my toes gingerly into the water and watched the ripple emerge. I had a professional relationship with someone I knew was an energy healer and began to connect with her on a personal level. We talked about energy healing … Read the rest

The Catalyst for Change

“When you come out of the storm you won’t be the same person that walked in.
That’s what the storm is all about.”
~Haruki Mirakami

“Your surgery isn’t going to happen today honey.” Those were the words that yanked me back from the vortex of hell that had me trapped in a gravity-less nightmare of violent nausea, chaos and terror. And then I blacked out.

November 19, 2004. I was scheduled for an early morning surgery of a routine nature, but with major implications that I knew could be more than just physically life altering. The kind that would determine whether or not I had cancer. What I didn’t know was that this would become the day that would provide the catalyst for what would become an unexpected swim in uncharted waters.

interlocking spiralsSurrounded by my family in the pre-surgery room was unnerving. The clock was ticking and as the time approached my emotions broke loose. The IV drip was started and the anesthetic began coursing through my veins. Hasty kisses and I love you’s as I was wheeled toward surgery and my family headed to the hospital cafeteria for some scrambled eggs.

Within moments, nausea and extreme dizziness set in. … Read the rest

Simple “Steps” to Enjoying Life

“Walking is Man’s best medicine.
~Hippocrates, Father of Medicine

I’m a believer. Here are some tips for starting a walking practice and why walking, particularly outside, is good for body, mind and spirit:

  • Walk outside. Did you know we spend 80-90% of our time indoors? Enough is enough. Walking outside and spending time in nature feels good and promotes mind-body health. It beats going to the gym, where the air is stale, it’s noisy, smelly and, let’s be honest, swimming in bacteria. Being outside allows you to experience the natural rhythm of the day and the season while soaking up a healthy dose of Vitamin D. You’ll find that walking outside lifts your spirits and releases stress like nothing else can.
  • Walk alone. Nothing against a social walk; they’re good for you too. But, developing a personal practice of walking alone will take you to an entirely different place. It is a fantastic form of mindfulness meditation and will calm your mind and give your brain a break from everyday overstimulation. It’s a chance to let go of thoughts and tune into the vibration of nature; a chance to shift your attention and notice the earth, even if where
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Personal Practice: Year End Review

What the New Year brings to you will depend a great deal
On what you bring to the New Year.”

~Vern McLellan

A “Year End Review” is typically thought of as a business tool. However, I’ve adopted this as a personal practice after being assigned with this task several years ago by life coach, Nancy Carlstrom. It’s become a really enlightening annual practice as I make note of practical achievements, healing shifts, personal growth and health milestones.

In the process, it has also helped me identify areas of my life that I’ve avoided or neglected and guided me in re-focusing and re-prioritizing. For example, the fun bucket grew cobwebs this year and so I’ve recognized it as an area that needs attention.

thinking backBut mostly, what I’ve taken away from this practice is a sense of awe around the areas in my life where I’ve grown and the accomplishments I’ve achieved. It’s so easy to remain focused on what’s missing, what’s not working, and what I didn’t get done on a daily basis. It was a good day if I got a lot done; it was a bad day if I didn’t.

I’ve found a new appreciation for myself by … Read the rest

The Energy of Sound

“Whether or not we hear it, everything has a sound, a vibration all its own”
~Joshua Leeds, ‘The Power of Sound’

I know a woman who is intensely connected with nature. An avid hiker, she can actually see and feel the vibration of trees and rocks and all the elements of nature. I would love to see the world through her eyes – even for just a few moments. We all have that capacity, but for most of us, our belief that trees and rocks are a solid mass outweighs the law of physics that states that everything is energy and therefore has a specific vibration that generates its own sound.

The frequency at which everything vibrates is referred to as resonance. So it is that the natural state of resonance of the human body hums along in perfect pitch unless it is short circuited by illness, environmental factors or S T R E S S. If it remains out of sync for long enough, the result is a state of dis-ease.

The good news is that as vibrational beings, we are also connected to the vibration of universal energy or God, or whatever your choice of beliefs is. … Read the rest

Hack Your Brain’s Default Mode with Meditation

Intro By Rita Graving

Dan Harris, an ABC News correspondent gives an entertaining testimonial for the benefits of a daily meditation practice. After suffering what most people fear more than death itself – a humbling, live on-air panic attack on national television, Harris turned to meditation and ultimately wrote a book about the experience titled “10% Happier: How I Tamed the Voice in my Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, and Found Self-Help That Actually Works-A True Story.”

One thing I’ve come to know to be true – if you can only do one thing to help yourself thrive in our complicated world, pick meditation. It can very literally change in a positive way, your state of mind as well as your emotional and physiological state of being.

Meditation requires commitment and practice, practice, practice. It requires letting go of your perfectionism and invites you to give yourself a little love along with a healthy dose of gratitude.

And without even noticing, you find yourself giving into the silence, connecting with the in-the-moment experience of limitlessness, creating new connections in your body and your mind.

Meditation is transformational. So if everything is clicking for you exactly as … Read the rest

Evolving Your Brain 101

Intro By Rita Graving

In my opinion, meditation is to the personal toolbox what the hammer is to a carpenter’s toolbox. It is the go-to piece, the one you rely on, the practice that, in and of itself, can change your life experience more than anything else.

In this video, we hear from Dr. Joe Dispenza, a leading edge thinker if the field of Quantum Physics and the study of the brain, the body, our habits and beliefs and our connection with the Quantum field. This is fascinating, ground breaking information that has the potential to truly, permanently, change your life.

This compelling video spells it out in layman’s terms, dispelling any scientific mystery that sometimes turns people off to marginally mainstream practices like meditation. It lays a solid foundation for Dr. Joe’s more recent, best-selling books, videos and workshops on the exciting new information being revealed in the scientific community about the absolute wonder of how we, mere mortals, can access the quantum field to manifest massive healing and change in our lives.

For more information visit www.drjoedispenza.com

No Cost Meditation Sources

There are many, many sources offering free, guided meditations online. Here is one source with lots of … Read the rest

Sit Down

“Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon and the truth.”

Lately, a lot of unexpected, not really welcome experiences have been landing with many people I know, myself included. Rumblings of overwhelm, feeling out of balance, over-extended and stressed out are rampant. It’s been comforting to know that it wasn’t just me and I welcomed the odd camaraderie of the fact we were all going through it together.

But, things happens when you don’t pay attention to those taps on the shoulder. You see, they’re warning signals. As Oprah says, “it starts with a whisper.” “Maybe you need a little more sleep.” “Perhaps some play time would help recharge your battery.” And the more you ignore the whispers, the more persistent they become. Until, one day you’re forced to sit down.

It can be a metaphor or it can be reality – but sooner or later the quiet voice within that always tells us the truth, ultimately takes matters into its own hands and sits us down….and what was once a whisper is now a stern demand.

breatheI ignored the whispers and now I’ve been seated. I’m reviewing the lesson I’ve learned before. Take care yourself … Read the rest

I Am

“My hope is that ‘I AM’ is a window into truth, a glimpse into the miracle, the mystery and magic of who we really are, and of the basic nature of the connection and unity of all things.
In a way, I think of ‘I AM’ as the ultimate reality show.”
~Tom Shadyac

i am coverThe feature film, “I AM,” is the brainchild of Oscar winning, Hollywood director, Tom Shadyac. This inspired work is the result of a life threatening bicycle accident that left him with Post-Concussion Syndrome. He nearly threw in the towel. And yet, as frequently happens when we find ourselves suddenly tossed into the abyss – he found is healing from his search for meaning.

“I AM” tackles the mind-boggling questions of what is wrong in our world and how can we make it better. And in the process of asking those questions, some profoundly significant truths are revealed.

Sharing the wisdom of a handful of the world’s leading edge philosophers, spiritual leaders and scientists, this key truth is laid out clearly, compassionately and simply; we are all connected and our connection is what makes us whole. At the heart of our problems, individually and globally, is the separation Read the rest

Clearing the Nooks, Crannies and Trunk in the Garage

“Space clearing helps you create that lovely energy
that feels so good to walk into.”

“There sure is a lot of family history out there,” Suzanne commented quizzically as she walked back into the house from the garage. “Do you mean some of the things our kids have stored out there?” I asked. “No,” she replied, “I mean from your lineage, from generations that came before you.” Interesting.

This was Suzanne Ragan Lentz’s first visit to my home, and in fact we had only recently met and knew very little about each other. Among her healing gifts, was her practice of energetic space clearing, a practice I’ve been interested in for years, and dabbled in periodically by “smudging” (sage burning) my house on cleaning day.

With the heavy damage our house had suffered from a burst water pipe recently, and the subsequent stress caused by insurance issues that delayed reconstruction for three months, we decided our house was a prime candidate for some energetic space clearing. It was broken and exhausted. It, like my own energy, was begging to release and be healed from the negative energy that had accumulated over the past few months. Our vibrations were sagging.… Read the rest